Male opinions on dating a rape victim
It took me a long time to come to terms with my experiences, in large part because I didn’t have the language to articulate them.The confusion, fear and shame I felt, coupled with my school’s inability to respond, contributed to an attempted suicide and subsequent hospitalization only weeks after my second attack.(Correct me if I’m wrong, but more often than not, a man and a woman will have sex during the ‘dating’ phase before they decide to become exclusive, right?) Ideally, I would like to wait to have sex until I’m in a relationship, but I feel like I will have to explain the rape to justify my wanting to wait.One might think that if you had been abused, you would want nothing to do with it ever again.But the psychology of the human mind is far more complicated. You're never done."We've all heard the stories on the news about young boys being molested by priests, teachers and coaches. As a society we often focus on the disturbing details of the act itself, but what happens to these men after the abuse?For men in particular, sexual abuse still carries a level of shame and stigma undercutting the very notion of masculinity long after the incident(s) has passed.
I was raped twice while in college, but one of my experiences doesn’t fit into traditional definitions of rape.Numbers are pulled out of a hat, percentages are spouted without any thought, analysis or data. They aren’t ordered to not talk on mobiles phones or enquired about what they were wearing or where they were going. Such men see women not as human beings but simply as objects for appeasement.They do not feel the need to control because there is no fear of punishment.Posted: October 23, 2012 by anitahadasangwan in Opinions Tags: community, dignity, eveteasing, gender equality, india, justice for women, men, molestation, rape, respect, sexual harassment, society, women, women rights I am tired and angry of the daily escalating rape cases and furious of the politicization of rape.I see sensible men and women and leaders of this nation justifying and explaining rape. Women in other developed countries wear what they want , they go where they wish, they study, they live without being harassed or held responsible for the irresponsible and raging hormones of fellow-men. And it’s not just hormones in my opinion, it’s the objectification of women.
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